Abandonment: Looking in the Wrong Places
Wednesday, April 1, 2020
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"In peace I will both lie down and sleep, for You, Lord, alone make me dwell in safety and confident trust."Psalm 4:8 AMP
Thoughts for Today
The desire to have a good relationship with our earthly parents is normal. But many of us have had little or no relationship with our earthly fathers and mothers. That lack leaves a hole inside us. A hole we need to fill. That search often prompts us to look for love ... security ... happiness in the wrong places.
Men who had no father figure as a child have questions about who they are as men. They tend to become just like their absent father . . . and hate themselves for it. Poor gender identity creates vulnerability for other difficulties, even homosexuality. Women who grew up without a father sometimes avoid men altogether or develop distorted perceptions and inappropriate expectations of men.
In the case of an absent mother, children often grow up without nurturing and do not learn to be nurturing parents themselves. Men may have difficulty relating to women.
Consider this …
Where are you looking for love and security? Whom do you expect to satisfy your needs? How are you trying to fill that emptiness inside you?
There is only One you can always trust. In today's scripture, the psalmist says he can lie down and sleep in peace because He knows God is protecting Him. He knows God is trustworthy.
Are you looking in the wrong places for hope and peace and acceptance? Look up and reach out to your heavenly Father. He is waiting for you ... with open arms.
Father, a hole was left in me because of my absent parent. I've tried to fill that hole in many ways but now I realize I've looked in all the wrong places. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for being my heavenly Father. In Jesus' name ...
These thoughts were drawn from … Restoring Families: Overcoming Abusive Relationships through Christ by Janet M. Lerner, D.S.W. This study helps to minister to families caught in the cycle of abusive relationships. The curriculum deals with overcoming these abusive relationships through Christ and is recommended for use in support groups and Christian counseling.
Note: This curriculum was written especially for small groups, and we encourage people to use it that way. However, it can also be used effectively as a personal study for individuals or couples.
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