Never doubt yourself or sell yourself short. Concentrate on your God given abilities and assets. Remind yourself about productive dynamic attitudes. Use your intelligence to find and seek ways to create solutions and solve problems to insure your success. You must believe that you are important in the scheme of things in order to be successful. As a man thinks in his heart so is he. Believe in God and you will prosper. John 12:44–49, “And Jesus cried out and said, "He who believes in Me, does not believe in Me but in Him who sent Me. "He who sees Me sees the One who sent Me. "I have come as Light into the world, so that everyone who believes in Me will not remain in darkness.  "If anyone hears My sayings and does not keep them, I do not judge him; for I did not come to judge the world, but to save the world.  "He who rejects Me and does not receive My sayings, has one who judges him; the word I spoke is what will judge him at the last day. NASU” Tell yourself I am essential. I am special, important, intelligent and desirable. I am an overcomer. People need and want me. Prosperity and blessings are going to chase me down and overtake me.

Journal, number and take an account of your days. Psalms 90:12, “So teach us to number our days, that we may present to You a heart of wisdom.” Don’t worry or be concerned about last years plan not being fulfilled. Carry the unfulfilled portion of your dream over into 2011. God has plan B! Adam was plan A, Jesus is plan B! Stephen was plan A, Phillip was plan B!

Elijah was plan A, Elisha was plan B! Saul was plan A, David was plan B! Eli was plan A, Samuel was plan B! God has you covered expect success! Nothing takes God by surprise!

Remember God’s goodness and mercies. Give thanks for everything, the good, the bad, and the ugly; it is all part of your process. 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18, “Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.” NASU

Reevaluate your attitudes they will either empower you to succeed, or cause your defeat, through depression, despair and fear. Fear will paralyze you. Fear will prevent you from making changes and destroy your future. Fear can make you physically sick, shorten your life and steal your possibilities. It is important to identify what you are afraid of. What types of fear do you suffer from? Fear of man? Fear of man is easy to triumph over if you allow yourself to see everyone as an equal. It is important to honor all men great and small. But don’t honor or respect them more than you value yourself. If you don’t respect yourself how can you respect others?

What kind of impression do you give people? Believe it or not, first impressions are important. If you want to gain someone’s respect conduct yourself appropriately. Always present yourself in the best possible light. It is important to have a neat, clean, orderly, fit appearance. Don’t undermine yourself. Try to always look your best! The first impression you make on people will be the one they remember.

Do you have the fear of failure? Realize you are just as smart and talented as the next fellow. You are unique and special. Your thoughts and ideas are important and valuable. Proper planning and seeking out expert advice in your field of interest can alleviate many failures.

Do you battle with the fear of rejection? You are extraordinary, exceptional and very essential. You are just as important as the person you look up to and admire. Seek to develop an impartial objective opinion of others. Once you identify the type of fear that is hindering your progress you can expel it from your life by taking positive actions.

Dreams come true when you put action to them. The more we place our confidence in the Lord the more fear is diminished in our lives. A positive attitude that trusts in the Lord is powerful! Confidence is necessary to live a happy successful life. The more confidence you can develop in God the more success you will experience. Confidence produces success, increased production and brings swift promotion. We can build our confidence by recalling the marvelous things the Lord has done for us and through us. Reflect on your successful memories, accomplishments and things of excellence.

The brain is an amazing organ. It functions much like a computer. The brain collects, sorts and stores our positive and negative thoughts and memories. These memories are what make up our self-image. If you view yourself with a negative self-image you will not respect yourself. Only gather, deposit and ponder positive memories, images, comments and experiences. Focus on and contemplate the good, true, honorable things in your life. Think about whatever is right, and pure, whatever is lovely, and of a good reputation. Things of excellence are worthy of praise, dwell on and practice these things and the God of peace will be with you. Concentrate on the positive aspects of people and situations.

Don’t dwell on the negative weaknesses of others. Overlook the negative images, don’t entertain negative thoughts or opinions, and obliterate them from your mind. Cast off every unpleasant, pessimistic, detrimental thought, they will only steal your energy. Negative thinking and emotions makes you tired and bitter. Don’t dwell on failures, difficulties or problems. You empower what you focus on. Instead of focusing on difficulties or problems count your blessings. Focus on the pleasant encouraging things that edify and build people up. 

Train yourself to recognize and manage your emotions. When you are able to control or manage your emotions they will work for, not against you. If you let fear run wild and unchecked it will paralyze you. Don’t give into extremes or mood swings. Adjust your emotions to match positive motions. When you learn to manage your emotions properly you will not waste time on negative things but only recall the positive experiences in life.

Don’t believe in, listen to or give into anger, rage, rejection or any other negative response. If you choose positive actions and habitually rehearse the proper responses your emotions will begin to come into balance and fall in line. Your emotions will change for the positive when your actions and reactions positively change.

Reject….rejection! You are loved and accepted in the Beloved! The image we project to others will cause them to treat us in that way. If we project confidence we will be treated as a capable person who can handle great responsibilities. If we feel inadequate, pitiful or inferior people will treat us poorly.

 

Fabulous Friends

 

Are you friendly? Are you a friend to God? Jesus is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. Do you have all the friends you desire? To have friends you must show yourself to be open, warm, likeable and friendly. Are you a people person? Do you enjoy the company of others? Decide you are going to find something to like about everyone. Appreciate everyone you meet and look for ways to praise them. Celebrate their successes and accomplishments. It is so nice to receive a card of congratulations in the mail. Store up and invest compliments in the people you know, never treat anyone as a second class citizen. Praise is a powerful tool that opens the door for goals to be reached. When someone praises you learn to pass that compliment onto others. Everyone needs to be loved, built up and encouraged.

Getting along with diverse kinds of people is very important. Have you developed your people skills? The more people skills you have the more successful you will be in life. Be willing to lend your spiritual strength to people who are going through a difficult time. Send sympathy cards to those who have lost loved ones. Sometimes it is difficult to know what to say, so let the card say you care.

Learn to love your enemies. Romans 12:14–2, “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation. Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. “But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” NASU

When you meet a stranger greet them with a pleasant smile. Work at building your bank account with new friends by introducing yourself. I am learning the names of people in airports, stores and restaurants. Most people are shy or insecure so offer your hand in friendship first. Smile and introduce yourself by name. Then ask for their name and pronounce their names correctly. Try to remember their name. Make yourself a note and record their name in writing. You would be surprise how much better service you receive if you treat people with respect and greet them by their names. “Hello! Matt! How are you? It’s good to see you again!” If possible get their email address or phone number and drop them a friendly hello later in the week. Let them know how pleased you were to meet them. Brag on your new friend to their manager tell them about what a great job they do. If they are a waitress tip them big and they will fight over who gets your table next time. Treat people the way you would want to be treated if you were in their position.

When you meet new people try to put them at ease. The more comfortable, relaxed and easy going you act around others the more comfortable they will be around you. Don’t act arrogant or proud. Keep the other person and their needs as your focus. Ask them questions about themselves. Be genuinely interested in them as a person. Focus on removing the harsh or irritating elements of your character. Resolve complaints, criticisms and offenses quickly. Extend grace and forgiveness when others make mistakes or anger you. Ephesians 4:26–27, “BE ANGRY, and yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity.” NASU

The better you are able to treat and relate to people the further they will carry you in life. Successful people surround themselves with people who have varied skills, gifts and talents. People are the ones who sustain, transport and bring you through life. Cherish them.

 

Being a Good Listener is an Art!

 

Everyone likes a good listener. Are you a good listener? Do you dominate the conversations continually talking about yourself? Do you cut people off or interrupt their train of thought? Do you look for every opportunity to bring the conversation back around to you? People enjoy talking about themselves, so let your friends be heard. Ask them questions to draw them out. A good listener ignites enthusiasm and stimulates success by inspiring others to fulfill their dreams. It’s a real gift to make people feel loved, appreciated, valued and important. Everyone in your life is important to your success. Make them feel that they are significant.

Are you able to listen to suggestions, the advice of, demands, or the critiques of others? Do you get offended or rejected when someone offers you their ideas or input on your job? Does it bring up insecure feels that make you feel threatened? Do you think your supervisor is out to get you or undermine your department? How do you handle constructive criticism? Do you hear it through a negative filter? Those that are above us are there for a reason. They have more wisdom or know-how. They have been with the company longer and have seen a lot of changes come and go. Try to embrace their evaluations, analysis or assessments as a positive bonus in your life. You can learn a great deal from people who have more experience. Thank them for their advice. Let them know you appreciate the time they took to speak into you. Pay attention to the positive elements they brought to the table. Gladly make the necessary changes. Focus on their positive attributes. Never be prejudice towards anyone. Don’t tear someone down or belittle them especially when they are trying to help you succeed. Embrace diversity, it makes life spicy and enjoyable. Be determined to learn something from everyone.

The way you think and how you handle losses, adversity, criticism, or defeat will determine how long it will take you to successfully reach your next goals. It is helpful to regularly appraise your work. The road to success is always under construction. Determine how you can improve your skills. Choose one of your many abilities to develop. We can learn a great deal from our mistakes if we don’t allow them to bury us in remorse or self pity. Recognize a mistake for what it is; a mistake. Don’t label yourself as a failure or beat yourself up emotionally just because something didn’t workout the way you planned. Refuse to allow discouragement or depression to enter your thinking. Instead research your field of interest. Decide what went wrong. Experiment, explore new options and approaches, investigate possibilities, change it, discover how to correct it next time, let it go, preserver, be persistent and move on. Don’t allow setbacks to discourage you from reaching your goals, expand your horizons. With God’s wisdom you can solve every predicament. Pray continually and meditate on the Word. Sing and make melody in your heart. Take a nap, relax, workout, dance, take a vacation and then revisit the problem with a new response. The experience you have gleaned from your mistake will change defeat into a successful victory. This valuable life lesson will not only help you in the future but your new knowledge will help others be successful, too.

It is also important not to listen to someone else speak negatively about a friend or acquaintance. People are a wonderful treasure they are the ones who insure your happiness in life. Don’t take up someone else’s grievances’ offense, or negative opinions. Be a free thinker and formulate your own positive opinions about others. Treat people with dignity, honor and respect. Quickly excuse yourself from hostile company. Negative words create a destructive environment. Remember the law of sowing and reaping. You will reap the words you sow into someone’s life or into the atmosphere. We always reap more than we have sown because of the multiplication factor. Words continue to exist years after they are spoken. Let your words be sweet because some day you may have to eat them. Let judgmental people know you don’t agree with their evaluation of your friend and move on. You should never allow yourself to be a dumping ground. Love thinks or hears no evil of others but always believes the best about someone. Treat people the way you want to be treated, always be kind, thoughtful and full of grace and love.