The Cost of Connection

Meaningful relationships have the power to change our life, but they come at a cost.

Now as Jesus was walking by the Sea of Galilee, He saw two brothers, Simon who was called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea; for they were fishermen. And He said to them, ``Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men." Immediately they left their nets and followed Him. Going on from there He saw two other brothers, James the son of Zebedee, and John his brother, in the boat with Zebedee their father, mending their nets; and He called them. Immediately they left the boat and their father, and followed Him. Matthew 4:18-22

We often think of the disciples in terms of their relationship to the Lord, but have you ever thought about the bond they shared with each other? Together they witnessed Jesus’s miracles, discussed His confusing parables, suffered through His death, and rejoiced at His resurrection. The intimacy among them could not be manufactured, nor could it be undone.

But the disciples’ friendship came at a cost—each man left his livelihood and familiar routine to follow Jesus for three years (Matthew 4:18-22). Joining Him was not only controversial and at times dangerous; it also required constant reevaluation of the things they once held as true. For example: ``You have heard that it was said, `AN EYE FOR AN EYE, AND A TOOTH FOR A TOOTH.' ``But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. ``If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also. ``Whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two. ``Give to him who asks of you, and do not turn away from him who wants to borrow from you. ``You have heard that it was said, `YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR and hate your enemy.' ``But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. (Matthew 5:40-45).

Though the disciples’ friendship was a byproduct of following Jesus, the depth of their connection came from their shared experiences. That’s why true friends are rare—such relationships require time, energy, resources, and most importantly, vulnerability. Superficial conversations leave us with superficial connections, but as Scripture promises, “The one who sows generously will also reap generously” (2 Corinthians 9:6).

Think about it

Are you satisfied with your current friendships? If not, what could you do to make them more meaningful?

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