Marital adjustment is a simple matter. Before marriage, you command your ship of life based upon the personal convictions of one person—you.After marriage you board the USS Matrimony. You are now dealing with the personal convictions of two people. It’s something you must quickly learn to deal with.
Humility is essential to create and maintain unity on board. It requires a mind-set that honors your partner.
So, what’s riding on this? Quite a lot—namely, oneness and intimacy. If you learn the art of servant-leadership, the sailing on the USS Matrimony will be much smoother.
Yes, you may have a compliant spouse who’ll tolerate your less than humble ways. But in such cases, outer calmness is usually the result of an inner deadness in the marital relationship, not oneness and intimacy.
Without a humble spirit and a willingness to serve one another, you may have peace, you may have marital longevity, and you may even appear to have a marriage made in heaven. But you won’t have a relationship based on intimacy, there will be road-side wounded, if not casualties, along the way.
I can’t urge you strongly enough in your marriage to commit yourselves to a life of humbly serving your spouse.
Taken from The Life Recovery Devotional: Thirty Meditations from Scripture for Each Step in Recovery by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Copyright © 1991 by Stephen Arterburn and David Stoop. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved.
Whether he was there or not during your youth, your father has shaped and continues to shape who you are and how you function in every aspect of your life. And while our culture devalues the contribution that a father makes to a family, it is clear that those of us with an absent or detached father have an empty, undefinable longing–for Dad. Making Peace with Your Father offers you a comprehensive look at the role of the father. It celebrates the positive influence a dad can have and uncovers the consequences that absent or abusive fathers have on their children. Most importantly, it takes you through eleven steps that will move you toward forgiveness so that you can make peace with your earthly father for the pain or difficulties he has brought to your life–allowing you to develop a closer relationship with your heavenly Father.