A Christian perspective, biblical perspective of relationships is they constitute normative Christianity. Christianity creates community. Community is not unique solely to Christianity, but it is a term that best describes the Church. The Bible calls the Church the family of God.

Ephesians 2:19 tells us, “You are members of God’s family.” The Bible also describes the Church as the body of Christ. God has designed life that we might be joined together in relationship. He doesn’t want us to go it alone.

When people say, “I am a Christian or I’m a follower of Christ, but I don’t go to church” it makes no sense. It is impossible to be a follower of Christ and not be in the family of God where all the followers gather together. To be healthy God wants His people connected in relationship.

Some people don’t want to be part of organized religion. But organized religion and a local church are not the same. Part of why the church I pastor has been so successful, effective and appealing is because it is not traditional or religious. People find they can come and be a part of it without first having to get their act together, dress a certain way or know the liturgy in order to be part of the church.

I understand very well having worked with people for many years some have bad church experiences. They feel they’ve been judged by other people, they feel they’ve been unloved and uncared for or they feel powerless against leadership. So, they keep their distance from the church because some people judge you, hurt you, mistreat you and don’t love unconditionally. Some of those may be true, but the answer is creating boundaries not leaving all relationships.

Over twenty years ago John Townsend and Henry Cloud wrote the book Boundaries. They helped many to understand healthy boundaries, learn to say “no” and have better relationships. A few years ago John Townsend came out with a new book Beyond Boundaries. Townsend writes about how healthy it is to establish boundaries but your boundaries should not keep you from ever entering into new and better relationships. Opening up to new relationships is crucial.

The family of God is meant to connect, support and provide encouragement to each other. When this happens people not only connect but love each other more deeply. And they experience in tangible ways the love and support of God has for them.


About Rick McDaniel

Rick McDaniel is a noted author, international communicator and church leader. He is the founder/senior pastor of Richmond Community Church in Richmond, Virginia. The church is known for its contemporary and innovative services and has a worldwide reach through McDaniel has earned three degrees including an advanced degree from Duke University and is the author of​ six​​ books including his latest "Turn Your Setbacks Into Comebacks." He has traveled and spoken at conferences and churches worldwide spanning six continents.

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