You cannot stay chained to the past. You must refuse to allow the past to determine your ability to have a comeback. Do not permit guilt and condemnation to ruin your comeback. Don’t say, “If only I had done this. If only I hadn’t done that. If only I could go back.”

The past cannot be changed, but your future certainly can. God’s message is restoration, that comebacks are possible with His help. It is the enemy of your soul who wants you to be filled with regret, focused on your past mistakes and failures. Romans 8:1 says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” If you have received God’s forgiveness, there is no guilt. If you haven’t, you need to receive that forgiveness.

You cannot change the past, but you can change the negative results of your past actions. You can decide that you will no longer have the same setbacks. Acting with wisdom gained from your setback can eliminate negative results. There are lessons to be learned from a setback. But here is what is important to understand: You need to learn the lesson and then bury the experience. After you have extracted the lesson from the setback, stop replaying the experience.

I was talking with someone recently about one of my own setbacks. I have learned the lessons, but I have no desire to rehash the experience. Bury the experience. Refuse to allow the hurt, guilt, pain, and disappointment back into your life. Learn the lesson, move on, and lose the regret. Lose the kind of thinking that keeps you stuck in the setback because you can’t let go of the past.

You can’t make a comeback while dragging around the past. Unfortunately, for many of us, there are people who will not let us forget. It isn’t great to have those folks in your life. What I have learned is, either they change or you have to get rid of them. This is not an easy thing to do, but if people keep talking about your past mistakes, they will hinder your comeback. Refuse to dwell on the past. Lose the self-pity. Release the regret.


About Rick McDaniel

Rick McDaniel is a noted author, international communicator and church leader. He is the founder/senior pastor of Richmond Community Church in Richmond, Virginia. The church is known for its contemporary and innovative services and has a worldwide reach through McDaniel has earned three degrees including an advanced degree from Duke University and is the author of​ six​​ books including his latest "Turn Your Setbacks Into Comebacks." He has traveled and spoken at conferences and churches worldwide spanning six continents.

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