One of the fiercest and most damaging enemies of relationships is anger. Poorly managed anger and unresolved anger have destroyed more marriages, friendships and businesses than perhaps any other thing. It’s something that can flare up in a moment or simmer and stew over a lifetime. It’s a monster you must learn to control, or it will control you.
God gave us clear guidance about dealing with destructive anger. He taught us how to manage our madness:
You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, “You shall not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.” But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, “Raca,” is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, “You fool!” will be in danger of the fire of hell. — Matthew 5:21, 22 (NIV)
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. — Ephesians 4:26, 27 (NIV)
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. — James 1:19-21 (NIV)
Here are some things to remember about uncontrolled or poorly managed anger:
Here are some ways to manage your madness:
Manage your madness the right way, before it makes a mess of you!
Positive changes happen in us when we know, believe, confess and obey God’s Word. When we agree with what God says about us, our minds are renewed, and our choices and habits improve. In this new book from Pastor Dale O'Shields, you will find 25 biblically-based affirmations that will help you think right about God, yourself, others and the world.