A GOD PLEASER OR A PEOPLE PLEASER
Healthy relationships require you to be a God pleaser more than a people pleaser. It may sound counterintuitive but it is true. If you seek to please people more than God you actually end up with unhealthy relationships. Galatians1:10 tells us, “I’m not trying to please people. I want to please God. Do you think I’m trying to please people? If I were doing that, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Our focus is on being a God pleaser, not a people pleaser.
Why does trying to please people not work? You can never please everyone. Accepting you can’t make everyone happy helps your relationships it doesn’t harm them. Some are driven to be liked, to want everyone to be happy, to have everyone to get along. It may be great in theory but in reality everyone can’t always get along. People are never always going to agree. Two people can be in the same situation and see it in two totally different ways.
People pleasing ultimately leads you to unhappiness. When your life is about pleasing other people who will never be fully satisfied, you’ll just be frustrated and you’ll be unhappy. Our desire is not pleasing people - its pleasing God. When we want to please people we begin to conform our lifestyle because we fear rejection.
I had an interesting experience at the golf course a few years ago. I decided at the last minute to go play and I really hadn’t planned it for the week. I showed up as what they call a single, I didn’t have a partner or group to play with. They put me in a group with these three young guys. They were talking in ways different than people usually talk around me talking about subjects they usually don’t talk about and consuming a fair amount of beer in the process. One of them actually hit me with a golf ball! The more I listened to these guys talk I could just see the pressure to conform. The loudest guy in the group asked me if I wanted a beer and when I told him no he kept pressuring me to have one.
The more I listened the more I thought how strong the pressure is to please people. Do what they are doing, talk like they are talking and not be different. I wanted so much to tell them who I was, but I kept it a secret the whole time because it really was a lot more fun.
If you are a people pleaser, you are going to conform your lifestyle to what pleases people and you are not going to please God. Paul said: “If I were doing that, I wouldn’t be a servant of Christ.” If you are going to follow Christ, if you are going to be His servant, then you need to conform your lifestyle according to the teachings of Jesus.
About Rick McDaniel
Rick McDaniel is a noted author, international communicator and church leader. He is the founder/senior pastor of Richmond Community Church in Richmond, Virginia. The church is known for its contemporary and innovative services and has a worldwide reach through www.highimpactchurch.tv. McDaniel has earned three degrees including an advanced degree from Duke University and is the author of six books including his latest "Turn Your Setbacks Into Comebacks." He has traveled and spoken at conferences and churches worldwide spanning six continents.
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