A Christian perspective, biblical perspective of relationships is they constitute normative Christianity. Christianity creates community. Community is not unique solely to Christianity, but it is a term that best describes the Church. The Bible calls the Church the family of God.

Ephesians 2:19 tells us, “You are members of God’s family.” The Bible also describes the Church as the body of Christ. God has designed life that we might be joined together in relationship. He doesn’t want us to go it alone.

When people say, “I am a Christian or I’m a follower of Christ, but I don’t go to church” it makes no sense. It is impossible to be a follower of Christ and not be in the family of God where all the followers gather together. To be healthy God wants His people connected in relationship.

Some people don’t want to be part of organized religion. But organized religion and a local church are not the same. Part of why some churches are so successful, effective and appealing is because it is not traditional or religious. People find they can come and be a part of it without first having to get their act together, dress a certain way or know the liturgy in order to be part of the church.

I understand very well having worked with people for many years some have bad church experiences. They feel they’ve been judged by other people, they feel they’ve been unloved and uncared for or they feel powerless against leadership. So, they keep their distance from the church because some people judge you, hurt you, mistreat you and don’t love unconditionally. Some of those may be true, but the answer is creating boundaries not leaving all relationships.

It is healthy it is to establish boundaries but your boundaries should not keep you from ever entering into new and better relationships. Opening up to new relationships is crucial.

The family of God is meant to connect, support and provide encouragement to each other. When this happens people not only connect but love each other more deeply. And they experience in tangible ways the love and support of God has for them.

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