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When You Feel Numb, Broken and Out of Options: Emotional Shutdown, Affairs and Where to Start

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟑 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒

In this Q&A episode, JJ West and Doug Barnes respond to two deeply honest letters. “Terry” has been sober for five and a half years after porn and betrayal but feels emotionally numb, unable to cry over major losses or show his wife the empathy she deserves. Another listener shares that after an affair and a recent “almost slip,” his partner is done, and he’s promised to change but doesn’t know where to start.

You’ll learn:

  1. Why emotional shutdown is often a survival strategy rooted in trauma and loss, not proof that you’re inhuman or beyond hope—and how trauma‑informed counseling and simple emotional awareness practices can help thaw the numbness.
  2. Why “almost affairs” are still heart‑level betrayals, why big promises aren’t enough, and how real change begins with awareness, ownership, and examining what made you open to temptation in the first place.
  3. How New Life’s workshops, counseling, and groups can support men and their wives as they move from mere sobriety into deeper healing, empathy, and relational repair.


🎟 Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for the Every Man’s Battle Intensive, and ask about Restore for wives and ongoing recovery groups so you’re not walking this road alone.


📧 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 & 𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐄𝐑 𝐐𝐔𝐄𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒

Want extra content to encourage your integrity, delivered via email each month?

👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Bonus Content” in the subject line.

To send your own questions for future Q&A shows:

👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Podcast Question” in the subject line.


☎️ Need more than a podcast—counseling, workshops, or groups?

👉 Call 800‑NEW‑LIFE or visit NewLife.com to connect with:

  1. Sexual integrity counseling for men.
  2. Every Man’s Battle intensives.
  3. Restore workshops for wives.
  4. Ongoing recovery and Life Recovery groups.


🎟 𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐏𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐓𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐀𝐅𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐒 𝐄𝐏𝐈𝐒𝐎𝐃𝐄

If you resonate with Terry’s numbness or the anonymous oil‑field worker’s fear of losing his relationship, consider:

  1. Every Man’s Battle Intensive
  2. A 3‑day workshop for men seeking freedom from porn, affairs, and sexual addiction, led by licensed Christian counselors.
  3. Helps you understand not only your behavior but also the deeper story and emotions behind it.
  4. Restore Intensive (for wives)
  5. A 3‑day workshop for women affected by betrayal, affairs, and pornography, offering tools and community for betrayal trauma recovery.
  6. Join a recovery group
  7. New Life offers online and in‑person groups for sexual integrity, addiction recovery, and Life Recovery to provide long‑term support as you work through numbness, triggers, and relational repair.


Scholarships are often available; ask about them when you call 800‑NEW‑LIFE.


Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 when you register for Every Man’s Battle to save $100 on your registration.


🎧 Listen & subscribe:

👉 Every Man’s Battle Podcast hub: https://newlife.com/podcasts/every-mans-battle/

👉 New Life LIVE & other New Life podcasts: https://newlife.com/podcasts/


#EveryMansBattle #EmotionalNumbness #AffairsAndRecovery #SexualIntegrity #BetrayalTrauma #NewLifeMinistries

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6/8/2026

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Featured Offer

Every Man’s Battle Intensive

Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. The Every Man’s Battle Workshop is the place where men engage in the battle to get back their sexual integrity. In this intensive three-day workshop you’ll work with licensed Christian counselors who will arm you with the weapons you need for victory. The enemy may have wounded you, but the battle is not over. Register today. Too much is at stake not to take action.

About Every Man’s Battle Podcast

New Life has been helping thousands of men with their sexual integrity for over 3 decades. Every Man's Battle podcast discusses the topics that will help men understand their challenges, the pathway to Christlike character, and hope for recovery. Becoming a man of sexual integrity is an ongoing process, and we can help you on the journey. New Life's EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST can assist you on the pathway to becoming the man you hope to be. As all things sexual integrity, EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST is for EVERY MAN!

Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive.

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About New Life

JJ WEST

JJ is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Orlando. With a Master’s and Specialist degrees in Counselor Education, JJ began private practice after years of working with children, adolescents and families in outpatient settings. In 2009, he became an Every Man’s Battle Workshop facilitator, taking over as the main presenter in 2022. Before becoming a therapist, he worked for several years with college students in both Christian ministry and church settings. JJ is married with 2 adult children; and enjoys outdoor adventures, traveling to other cultures, good movies, and Florida State sports.


DOUG BARNES

Doug is a LifeCoach and Licensed Professional Counselor with Supervisor status working in private practice in the Dallas Ft. Worth Metroplex; working primarily with men and couples in finding restoration and redemption from sexual brokenness. His journey into becoming a clinician began in his teens and cultivated into a road to healing in his early twenties after the death of his father. He has worked with Every Man’s Battle Intensive Workshops as a facilitator since 2006. His passion is to give other men what God has given him—freedom. Doug has been married for 31 years and has 2 sons. He is a rollercoaster junkie, runner, all around fitness gym rat, and sometimes even breaks out his guitars to play.

Contact Every Man’s Battle Podcast with New Life

New Life Ministries

PO Box 852347

Richardson, TX 75085-2347

Phone Number

(800) NEW-LIFE (639-5433)