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When Fantasy Becomes a Master: How Joe Elliott Found Hope, Brotherhood, and Sustained Victory

📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟑 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tes


In this Season 3 “meet the facilitators” episode, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes interview Joe Elliott, an Every Man’s Battle breakout‑group and Sustained Victory facilitator whose story spans childhood exposure to sexualized media, decades of acting out across nearly all sexual boundaries, and a powerful turn toward freedom and service. Joe first attended EMB in 2011 after his wife, Kyra, confronted his ogling and friends pointed them to New Life.


You’ll hear:

  1. How early experiences—like a nude portrait in his home, pin‑ups in the closet, and TV “heroes” who slept with every guest star—shaped Joe’s objectification, compulsive masturbation, serial monogamy, and infidelity.
  2. Why skipping Sustained Victory after his first EMB led to relapse four years later, and how weekly groups, check‑in calls, journaling, and understanding “eye wounds” now anchor his ongoing recovery and marriage.
  3. What Kyra told him about forgiveness vs. trust—and how her recorded prayer for EMB men today reflects God’s grace at work in both of their lives.


🎟 Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 to save $100 when you register for the Every Man’s Battle Intensive, and ask about scholarships for both EMB and Sustained Victory so cost doesn’t keep you from the help you need.


📧 𝐁𝐎𝐍𝐔𝐒 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 𝐅𝐎R EMAIL 𝐒𝐔𝐁𝐒𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐁𝐄𝐑𝐒

Want extra content to encourage your integrity, delivered via email each month?

👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Bonus Content” in the subject line to receive exclusive Every Man’s Battle Podcast resources.​


Have a question or topic suggestion?

👉 Email EMBpodcast@newlife.com with “Podcast Question” in the subject line.

☎️ Need prayer, a counselor, or more info on workshops and groups?

👉 Call 800‑NEW‑LIFE or visit NewLife.com for counseling, groups, and faith‑based sexual integrity resources.


🎟 𝐒𝐏𝐄𝐂𝐈𝐀𝐋 𝐎𝐅𝐅𝐄𝐑 – 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘 𝐌𝐀𝐍’𝐒 𝐁𝐀𝐓𝐓𝐋𝐄 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐒𝐈𝐕𝐄 & 𝐒𝐔𝐒𝐓𝐀𝐈𝐍𝐄𝐃 𝐕𝐈𝐂𝐓𝐎𝐑𝐘

If Joe’s story sounds painfully familiar—early exposure, escalating behaviors, broken promises, and a “white‑knuckled” attempt to fix things alone—the Every Man’s Battle Intensive is where your turnaround can begin. This 3‑day, in‑person workshop provides a safe, shame‑free zone where licensed Christian counselors lead you and a small group of men through story work, biblical teaching, and practical tools for sexual integrity.

After the weekend, Sustained Victory weekly groups offer the structured, ongoing support Joe wishes he’d embraced from day one—guided conversations, accountability, and brotherhood that help you maintain momentum long after the event ends.


💵 Worried about cost? Joe mentions scholarships because New Life never wants money to be the reason you stay stuck. When you call 800‑NEW‑LIFE, ask about scholarship options for both Every Man’s Battle and Sustained Victory.


Use code 𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐏𝐎𝐃 when you register to save $100 on the Every Man’s Battle workshop.


🎧 Discover more ways to listen & watch:

👉 Every Man’s Battle Podcast hub: https://newlife.com/podcasts/every-mans-battle/

👉 New Life LIVE & other podcasts: https://newlife.com/podcasts/


#EveryMansBattle #SexualIntegrity #JoeElliott #FacilitatorStories #PornAddiction #BrothersInTheBattle #SustainedVictory #EveryMansBattleWorkshop #NewLifeMinistries

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3/30/2026

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Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. The Every Man’s Battle Workshop is the place where men engage in the battle to get back their sexual integrity. In this intensive three-day workshop you’ll work with licensed Christian counselors who will arm you with the weapons you need for victory. The enemy may have wounded you, but the battle is not over. Register today. Too much is at stake not to take action.

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Featured Offer

Every Man’s Battle Intensive

Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. The Every Man’s Battle Workshop is the place where men engage in the battle to get back their sexual integrity. In this intensive three-day workshop you’ll work with licensed Christian counselors who will arm you with the weapons you need for victory. The enemy may have wounded you, but the battle is not over. Register today. Too much is at stake not to take action.

About Every Man’s Battle Podcast

Becoming a man of sexual integrity is an ongoing process, and we can help you on the journey. New Life's EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST can assist you on the pathway to becoming the man you hope to be. As all things sexual integrity; EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST is for EVERY MAN!

Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive.

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About JJ West & Doug Barnes

JJ WEST
JJ is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Orlando. With a Master’s and Specialist degrees in Counselor Education, JJ began private practice after years of working with children, adolescents and families in outpatient settings. In 2009, he became an Every Man’s Battle Workshop facilitator, taking over as the main presenter in 2022. Before becoming a therapist, he worked for several years with college students in both Christian ministry and church settings. JJ is married with 2 adult children; and enjoys outdoor adventures, traveling to other cultures, good movies, and Florida State sports.


DOUG BARNES
Doug is a LifeCoach and Licensed Professional Counselor with Supervisor status working in private practice in the Dallas Ft. Worth Metroplex; working primarily with men and couples in finding restoration and redemption from sexual brokenness. His journey into becoming a clinician began in his teens and cultivated into a road to healing in his early twenties after the death of his father. He has worked with Every Man’s Battle Intensive Workshops as a facilitator since 2006. His passion is to give other men what God has given him—freedom. Doug has been married for 31 years and has 2 sons. He is a rollercoaster junkie, runner, all around fitness gym rat, and sometimes even breaks out his guitars to play.

Contact Every Man’s Battle Podcast with JJ West & Doug Barnes

New Life

P.O. Box 1029

Lake Forest, CA 92609-1029

Phone Number

(800) NEW-LIFE (639-5433)